Dating:
Is it About
Sex?
Two
people meeting
for the first time start from little
or no information about each other, trying to build a relationship. At
the point of meeting you have a choice: you could decide to be you, or
take on an identity, pretend to be someone other than who you are.
Getting to know
each other means asking questions. How
else are you going to get to know each other? Actually, that was what
dating was suppose to be about, but today it has a wide variety of
meanings. I still think that it can be used to collect information
about a person you are considering being a part of your life. Daters
desire to get connected to others with similar interests but after the
meeting, a few outings, if any, then what? Where do you expect to go
from there? If you plan to go no where, say it! Tell the person,
“I just want to go places, spend some time but I am not
looking
for anything beyond that.”
Why are daters
afraid to be honest about their sexual
intent? It saves a lot of time and hurt feelings later on, when you
know up front it’s about the sex and that’s it.
What do you think?
Do you date just for the sex? Are you
registered with online dating sites just to connect with a sexual
partner? Tell us your reasons for dating excluding the sex.
Here are some
points to ponder: if you are only dating
for the sexual conquest, then keep your personal information to a
minimum. Too much information will open the floodgates of emotions. Do
not introduce this person to any family or friends. It is better
neither of you know where the other lives.
Limit the time you
spend together. Why take walks on the
beach, subject yourself to a romantic environment when it is not
leading to commitment. Starting a dating relationship to see where it
is going will cause pain down the road. Two people spending time
together, enjoying moments, sharing, cannot help but grow together
emotionally.
I use to think that
dating sites were a good way to meet
people looking to be in a committed relationship and didn’t
have
time to do it the traditional way. Daters are flocking to dating sites
now in the hunt, to discover who will and who won’t.
Dating
can be fun. It is a great opportunity to
connect with someone who wants to be connected to someone. If you are
dating just for the sex, why waste your time? You can’t have
it
both ways. There are places where you can spend the money you would
spend on a date, have sex and go, no strings. Dating online and offline
with the goal to ultimately engage a sexual conquest is misleading and
will result in emotional scarring.
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