A Bad
Relationship
and How to Recognize It
Are
you dating someone who is controlling, needs to know your whereabouts
24/7? Are you in a relationship where you are being called names, hit,
disrespected, or stalked? If you are, then you are in a bad
relationship, one that is unhealthy emotionally and physically.
Individuals in relationships of this type feel trapped, confused,
hopeless, and as if they are no longer in control.
Domestic
violence
is not a good relationship, whether
it’s verbal, physical, or emotional.  Stalking is
not acceptable social relationship behavior. No one in their right mind
would enter into a relationship with any of the above outcomes, would
they? No! Ask anyone who have had any of the above experiences and you
will hear how great things were in the beginning. So what happened?
You went into the
game with no experience, no
information, and no knowledge, so you let your guard drop and became a
victim. The attention was just what you have been looking for. They are
so into you. You feel special. This has never happened to you before.
Nice change. Clue, how many calls are you receiving, what are you being
asked. Those calls could indicate a controlling personality or a
stalker.
Don’t be
fooled by the Knight in Shining Armor
appearance, the gifts, the feeling like a queen or princess. Wake up!
This person is not your savior. He is baiting you. This type sneaks in
and slowly you have no one around except him. He doesn’t even
want your family to come around.
Too many women wake
up in this cesspool, bad
relationship, and afraid to get out. The problem isn’t him,
alone, it is you.
Why have you
surrendered your power? You may be thinking
you can’t get out because this person has kept you pregnant
and
you can’t make a clean break. Stop using the children to
procrastinate.
If you are married
to him, or single, what has to happen
before you make a decision to cut all ties? Does someone have to die,
or suffer great bodily harm? Stop your denial. It is not working. This
is not love, and he does not love you. It is not fun and games, it is
real. You need help, if you are not willing, or don’t have
the
will power to do it yourself.
If you get hit one
time, even if it’s the first
time, leave. By staying you are giving that person permission to hit
again. Licks and sorry won’t cut it. You don’t
deserve
that. It is better to cut this type behavior quickly. The longer you
allow it the more difficult it is to break the cycles. Allowing someone
to keep tract of your whereabouts is giving them power over your life.
It is saying, “I’m weak. Chase me. Make me feel
significant.” And they will.
Bad relationships that lead to violence, stalking or control, are not
leading to a good end. The domestic abuse hotline 1-800-799-7233 is
waiting for that call or visit www.ndvh.com
to plan your escape.
Life
is full of
relationship challenges, find out more at www.allaboutlifechallenges.org
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