It sounds like you don’t trust Mr. Cheating Eyes. It all hinges on whether you want to confront. Examine your feelings. Write down how it makes you feel when Mr. Roving Eyes does this. Mr. Cheating Eyes may not be a cheating spouse, but has a habit that is damaging your relationship and shattering your trust.

Men are logical so your emotional outburst may not get you anywhere. You could look for examples of something manly to pierce his imagination, or to reach his logic. If your thoughts are: it doesn’t make me feel good about myself; doesn’t make me feel confident; makes me jealous; makes me angry.

You are looking for an example that will help him to not just help him to understand your feelings but to show you respect by not doing that again. . . even though he still might do it behind your back. . . but at least not blatantly in front of your face.

Does he play or watch sports? Ask him a question. If one of your players was not showing up to practice, and it was affecting the morale of the team, and the game, what would you do? Listen, and then say, you know Mr. Roving Eyes, when you look at other women in my presence it makes me feel like those team members; it interferes with my morale and position as your wife.

If not sports, find another example. Talk to Mr. Roving Eyes in his language.

You’re still not off the hook. At what part of your dating experience did you decide to overlook this behavior of Mr. Cheating Eyes, thinking that he will only have eyes for you? Now, you know. The dating experience should have revealed this, and probably did, but you had stars in your eyes.