Dating
Online Do's
and Don'ts, A Fling?
Dating online is one of the fastest ways of connecting
with people who share common interests. But do you know what type
person you are looking for? Online sites can expose you to the good,
bad and the ugly. Setting some rules before you start to swim would be
wise, whether male or female.
Assess your dating
needs: Do you want a casual meeting?
I don’t mean face to face, but someone to chat with every now
and
then, to share likes, dislikes, to build a relationship. Most of the
time daters go online to search for quick fixes and at the first e-mail
they take that as a sign to tell all, give up all.
A fling or thing
would be whatever you determine it to
be. The fling or thing could be someone to meet and go out on dates
with: dinners, social events, etc. You may want to include in your
profile some specifics, like looking for someone who would enjoy
companionship without commitment.
You should
establish the ground rules. If sex is not a
part of these connections, then say it up front. Leaving it to the
relationship course may attract the wrong person. You are going to find
that once you start emailing an interested person, if they live in your
city, they are going to want to meet you sooner or later. So much for
the anonymity.
Online dating
widens the playing field and anyone can
play. Pictures you post online should not be provocative. If you
don’t want to be preyed on for sex, then don’t set
yourself
up that way. Looking for someone to commit to, or a commitment
relationship, then don’t make sex the issue with sexy poses,
or
write it in your emails.
If you post a
picture and the response is: “You
look good.” Delete that person from your possibilities. They
are
into looks. If you look that good, and they don’t, there is
sure
to be disappointment when you finally meet. A person who wants to meet
you right away should also be avoided. Isn’t the idea of
connecting online so that you can have the benefit of getting to know
others before you let them into your personal life. Whether you are
emailing, chatting, viewing photos, etc., you are still building a
relationship.
If you decide
it’s time to meet, your first date
should be about safety. Plan your first date activities in a more
public place: restaurant, busy park, bowling alley, etc.
Avoid touching and
kissing on that first meeting.
Don’t rush the time you have face to face even if you have
gotten
to know each other through e-mail or chatting. Take your time, even if
you have some emotions rising up.
Going
online to find a date, don’t get your
hopes up, be safe and not foolish. What you decide to do with this
opportunity will reveal what you think of yourself. You may discover
the reason you haven’t attracted any local dates is because
you
have not invested in you, setting guidelines and value on you.
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