What do you want to get out
of your dating experience? A question that most women never ask. They
drool into the arms of an interested male and allow him to call the
shots, which too often lead to disappointment. If there are no dating
rules then you get what you get.
Let’s
visit a hot Hollywood celeb name Rihanna.
According to one source she has been in 9 celebrity relationships,
lasting at least a year and none of those relationships led to an
engagement or a marriage. Either she does not know what she wants or
she accepts whoever is attracted to her beauty and talent. She was even
in a physically violent relationship.
Ponder these
dating rules if you don’t have
another alternative:
Rule number 1:
Decide what you want. Do you want to go
out with someone to share meals, fun activities, trips, conversation?
Rule number 2: Do
you want your dating to lead to sex?
If so, weigh the consequences. You could get pregnant, or catch a
disease. Even if he uses protection, or you’re on birth
control,
there is an emotional risk. Did you know that sex joins two people
together as one and the end result is guilt? To get rid of your guilt,
the uninformed, clueless, have more sex to override those guilty
feelings.
Rule number 3:
Decide how far you want to go before the
date and don’t go beyond that. If you don’t make
this
decision before the date, you will end up giving in and carrying a pile
of bad feelings that won’t wash away.
Rule number 4: If
you are planning to date someone you
met online, take precautions: meet in a public place; have your car
valet parked, and check your rear view mirror periodically to see
whether you are being followed. Don’t go to your place. Take
a
detour. Drive to a friend’s. Rule number 5: Dating plays to
fantasy, looking for the “right one” or the knight
in
shining armor is not reality. Accept the fact he maybe using dating and
desperate women to play to his fantasy.
Rule number 6:
Dating relationships can become serious.
If you are not looking for commitment, make yourself scarce.
Don’t let him call the shots. You take control. Delay your
responses to phone calls.
Rule number 7: A
casual dater keeps things in
perspective. Don’t go out with one person too often, space it
out. Maybe even date more than one person.
Rule number 8:
Beware that sex in your dating
relationships complicate matters. Once a woman and man engages in sex,
there is some unspoken ownership, an illusion of closeness, where one
or the other thinks there can be more.
Rule number 9: Be
honest upfront about what you want.
At least you won’t have deception on your conscience. Too
many
women find themselves following instead of leading in these type
relationships.
Rule number 10:
Make your own dating rules. What you
will allow and won’t allow. Be different. Place value on
yourself. Men will respect the personal values you stand for, even in
this fast pace, high tech world.
Remember, there is a consequence to every decision you make today,
tomorrow and forever. Who you are is not about the man that you want to
complete you, but what you stand for. If you don’t have
expectations, you can expect just what you get.
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