Do
Women Want
A Nice
Guy?
Do women want a nice guy? Have you heard guys
complaining about women lately, how their niceness was taken for
granted, and she ultimately left him for the one who mistreated her?
How do you recognize these nice guys? They really don’t look
any
different than others, but the way they do things sets them apart.
From the first
meeting, he might open the door for you
when you are going in the same direction as he into a public building.
If you drop something, or you are loaded down with packages, he might
just jump right in to assist you. He does things to be nice but he
doesn’t try to go any further, or cross the line.
If you go to dinner
with him he will not expect anything
after dinner, except to drop you off home. He likes to open your car
door. If it’s raining he will get wet bringing the umbrella
around to your side, rather than you getting wet.
He practices all of
the manners his parents modeled
about how to treat a lady. He is thoughtful and considerate of his
lady, whether for the evening or in a committed relationship. There is
a good chance he likes giving gifts to you, making you smile, or he
aims to please you.
If a guy chooses to
be nice, it should be because it is
the right thing to do and not based upon whether it is appreciated.
What you as a guy
needs to know: the woman who abuses
the nice guy has been taken advantage of and this is her response to
the next guy. No, you don’t deserve this type treatment but
that
is the way it is. You can’t expect any less from someone who
is
constantly preyed upon, deceived and hurt. Those walls are up and she
is not letting her guard down no matter how nice you seem. After all,
the last guy came on nice and look where it got her.
Men who get angry
with women they feel have abused them
should examine the actions that put them in this situation. Were you
paying her bills, rent, giving her money, taking her shopping? Well,
then you’ve got a reason to feel abused; she probably used
your
money while keeping company with someone else. Sorry but whose fault is
that? You stepped over the line. Nice guys who allow themselves to
become sugar daddies will always end up on the short end of the stick.
If your
conversation after the breakup is: “I took
care of her and this is my pay back,” that is a sign and an
action you should not repeat. Women will take a nice guy who jumps in
to take care of her in whatever way he does it, but that is no
guarantee that she will be loyal to you. Men will never understand why
women act the way they do. Don’t stake claim to her unless
you
two agree otherwise you are headed for disappointment. If you want her,
you will have to be patient. It will be a bumpy ride until she knows
for sure that you don’t mean to repeat the past.
Be
a nice guy because that is who you are.
Don’t change because a woman does not appreciate your best.
She
is probably not the one for you. Take your niceness and keep giving it
until one day you give it to the right one God has for you.
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