Online Dater, one
story: I saw a movie recently about a mother who began an internet
dialogue with a young boy. She posted a younger pic and the
exchange of words grew their passion for each other. He
couldn’t believe such a beautiful thing could be attracted to
him.
For her, the online dater caused her to experience new springs of water
pouring forth, invigorating her lifeless marital relationship. She
convinces the young man, her online dater, that an older guy was
stalking her. In his zealousness to serve the beauty of his life, a
meeting was arranged to threaten the older guy but instead he killed
him. The shot he fired ricocheted and hit an innocent passerby. An
investigation revealed the connections. In the end the young man met
the woman he thought was the love of his life, his beautiful lover, and
couldn’t believe what he saw.
She wasn’t what he imagined her to be. It crushed his spirit,
broke his heart. The internet is a stage where anyone can be someone
else, so hedge yourself against disappointment.
Tip number one: if there are no other photos uploaded on the site,
there is a good chance the online dater may not be who they claim to be
in the photo.
Tip number two: Pretty and handsome have the same issues online and
off: everyone likes good looks, so if you are attracted, others are
too. You may hide behind someone else’s picture, write
romantic word interchanges, but sooner or later you will meet, if you
keep communicating.
Reserve your expectations to avoid let down. In courting everyone puts
forth their best. Assess your looks. If you were to actually meet,
would that person be disappointed? Would they feel betrayed? If you are
using a picture of your younger thin self, then don’t meet.
You won’t like the response. Why put yourself through that?
Tip number three: What you see or read could be an illusion. It is not
what it seems. If you discover a person has lied about their looks, or
who they are, cut it off immediately. The reality of the Internet is,
it can be a haven for deception. If you know it going in, then your
expectations won’t be crushed.
Dating online or offline, has its challenges. Perhaps this is why many
are attracted to the online sites: an online dater can hide their
identity, be whomever they choose, without commitment. You
don’t really know each other. That is what is appealing to
some, the fantasy of getting your needs met without commitment. If you
are looking for a long term relationship using the online dating sites,
approach it with caution.
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