Personal Dating: Are Couples Dating
to Avoid A Marriage Commitment?

Personal dating, I did not want to admit this but I am slowly becoming convinced that it maybe an attempt at fulfilling a need without commitment. Are you just dating to meet new people, to keep from being lonely or to have a steady companion? In the last year how many dates have you been on? How did those dates end up? Why aren’t you still dating that person? Did you get what you set out to get, or were you disappointed?

You may have discovered in your personal dating life what I too learned, after awhile it does nothing, new face, pickup lines the same. Personal dating is fast becoming like seeing a pair of good looking shoes, walking into the store, and saying, “I want that pair in the window.” The clerk brings you the box. A perfect fit. You take a few steps; they feel good; you take them home. You wear them a few times and suddenly they are not as comfortable, don’t feel like they did in the store.

If you purchased them from a store that allows returns, you’re good to go, but if not, those shoes get thrown into the closet to join the rest you no longer wear. If your personal dating pursuits feel like those shoes, you will end up frustrated with these temporary fixes. Think about it, if the intent is simply to keep scratching an itch rather than moving through the cycle of life. The truth is life maybe what you try to make it butthere is a beginning and an end to everything. One can decide from life to death what role they will play. No matter how we bail out, or try to take control of our lives, it does not change how we end up. We will either choose to have a partner to share our lives with, or we will never fill that need in us to connect with that special someone, and then life will be over.