Today's
Woman
and Sex
Today’s
woman wields her beauty like a web waiting
to trap prey for the hungry spider. Is she the new love guru, set up to
attract men for her own selfish gain? What happened to men being the
hunters? Now the women hunt the men and with no shame.
This new emerging
woman is not bound by the need to have
a male for economic support. She can even have casual sexual
relationships without the heart, emotions and disappointment that comes
with it. Why should she limit herself to one male companionship when
she can have as many as she desires?.
Is there really a
perceived scarcity of men that has
birthed this attitude? Maybe women have just gotten tired of being
hunted and kicked to the curb. I think women are hedging themselves
against loneliness, the vulnerability of falling in love and marriages
that end up in divorce. In this position they believe they are
protecting their heart but the truth is women fear losing, trusting
themselves to another person or giving up control.
Do today's woman
really expect to journey through life
without any mishaps? Isn’t that how you learn, grow and
change.
Look at who you are today. Are you the same person you were as a child?
The answer should be “no.” Children grow up. Along
the way
they have experiences. They learn new things, what to do and what not
to do, what is right and wrong.
Are you one of
those who try something once and it
didn’t work so you vow to never try it again? Then you are
missing out on the best in this adventure called life. I’ve
never
been sorry that I fell in love, had my heart broken, been lied to,
deceived, used and yes sometimes abused, because that is what helps to
mold and shape you into who you are. You take risk and you learn to
take the good with the bad and learn from it.
I heard a quote
once that said, “It is better to
have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” I
agree. In
my failed relationships there was still something to learn. My failed
marriages taught me where my strengths and weaknesses were, and helped
me to make better choices the next time around.
Sex should not be
the only measurement for falling in
love, companionship or marriage because it is only a small part of your
life. Relationships built on sexual compatibility only never make it to
second base, leaving two people worst off than if there had never been
any sex. Why? Even in the animal family sex has a purpose. Animals
don’t have sex for enjoyment. The idea of sex for pleasure
promotes the hunt and conquer to get the sexual need met, leaving
behind an aftermath of guilt, bad feelings and denial.
What
are you looking for? Perhaps the search should
start with you. Are you the best you to give to another person? If you
want companionship and love, it should first start with you. People
relationships can’t fill our deepest need. . . It’s
Spiritual.
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